Self-love and self-care, finding ourselves while living the grind and showing our grit.
I had a similar feeling as I sat in my living room on the night after I returned home from taking my daughter Anne to college. Similar, but not the same. In college, I was excited to be done with finals and to get my degree and to start my career. Now, I was not excited. I didn’t want to be done being the Soccer Mom and the PTA Treasurer.
Years ago I read Gary Chapman's book The Five Love Languages. While it is traditionally used to help partners understand the ways they show and receive love, I think it can be applied to other near and dear relationships, such as the one with our own mothers, as well.
Focusing on self care can easily fall to the wayside when things get hairy, and especially when you are caring for the littlest ones in your family. While it is important to make time for you, getting creative with the ways and things that fill your proverbial well, can be a must. (Photo by Lindsay Goedken)
At its core, the Enneagram consists of nine different personality types, all of which consist of specific thinking and feeling patterns. In a time where lots of things in my life have changed (read: job, new parenting role, home town) the Enneagram has made me much more self aware and knowledgeable about my own natural tendencies.
After becoming a mom, I realized how finite my hours were. I was doing things I thought I “should” do and sacrificing my own well-being and family time on things that were draining me.
My pre-baby brain, the one that didn’t leave the laundry sink running on hot all night long and the one that actually remembers names and words for things.
I’m sorry for focusing on the pain and the disappointments, instead of the joys and the blessings. I’m sorry for wishing for abs instead of being thankful for strong arms that carry my baby every day.
Motherhood has redefined us, but it is not the only thing that defines us. It can be hard to relate to, especially if you haven't been a mom before, but we need our friends as much as we need our sleep. For those with a new mom friend in their lives, here are some things we want you to know about befriending your mom friend during that very hard and wonderful first year of motherhood.
I felt dizzy and all I could talk to her about was my son’s nap schedule, and how I felt like all of this was my fault, and how much I wanted to fix it. “I feel like I’m messing this up,” I blubbered to her over the phone. I felt out of control.